Wednesday the 4th November was National Stress Awareness Day.
Thepassion2perform specializes in helping small to medium size business owners go beyond stress through to maximizing their personal and business success.
Stress is very topical at the moment. Stress is an endemic feature of our western society. Success is something that many of us aspire to in the UK. In many respects its what the UK represents globally. People flock here with the hope of it. Many people are so hungry for it that they forget about themselves and their own needs as human beings (more of this in later blogs).
Having had direct experience of the impact of negative stress in my life I have first hand evidence of the powerful impact it can have for the worse, if left to grow uncapped. For many the formula looks like this:
Stressful job + busyness in and outside of the job + ambition + stigma of stress and denial that stress would affect us + sporadic attempts to prevent it through exercising occasionally + lack of quality time with those who are important to us + deluded that we’re somehow protected from it so we can keep pushing ourselves like we’re superhuman = recipe for the negative effects of stress on self, family and work.
Whats been your experience of stress?
- Do you sometimes think or feel not like your usual self?
- Do you get tetchy and irritable for no apparent reason?
- Do you sometimes go into a negative mindset or outlook on life issues?
- Do you experience relationship issues and not sure how they get started?
These are all signs of stress. The reality is stress is on the increase, its a fact, the complexity and demands of modern life plus too much information overload does it too us. Why is this? Well its quite simple although for millions of years we’ve been living quite stressful lives, as we have evolved we have had to survive and fight for our food and our lives without modern day niceties pretty much up to only 50 or so years ago. Its in our genes to be survivors but what the past didn’t have was the high expectations we now have, the busyness and the information overload we take in every day.
Basically the stress response is our bodies saying WARNING your in a dangerous place here, be weary. And before 50 years ago for millions of years it literally could have been a matter of life and death. The natural reaction back then would be to fight your way out or withdraw from the danger. Our millions of years of genetic history’s tells us still to react in this way and to be on guard when our lives are out of balance. What we mean by out of balance is ‘work hard no play’ or ‘work hard play hard’ which tends to result in denying ourselves what is really important to us, and focusing on none or one passion and human need only while neglecting most others.
Here are a number of typical stress symptoms to be aware of:
| Physical symptoms: |
Emotional symptoms |
Mental symptoms |
| Pounding heart
Headaches
Sweaty palms
Indigestion
Skin rashes
Shortness of breath
Holding of breath
Cold hands
Sleeplessness
Too much sleep
Fatigue
Nausea
Stomach tightness
Muscle tightness
Pain |
Mood swings
Irritability
Depressed mood
Anxiety
Lack of sense of humour
Abrasiveness
Hostile attitude
Nervousness
Irrationality
Loss of direction
Cynicism |
Forgetfulness
Loss of concentration
Poor judgement
Disorganization
Fuzzy perception
Confusion
Lack of interest in pleasurable activities
Deterioration in ability to calculate
Difficulty in thinking
Diminishing use of imagination
Negative self talk |
Take some time to read through these and circle which ones are relevant to you or have been in the last year. If you’re a business owner experiencing some of these symptoms, ranging from mild through to severe, then they are basically your body warning you.
Just like when the oil light comes on in our car it’s a warning that our oil is low before our car breaks down. We have a choice to listen to it or ignore it. Sometimes its turned off without having done anything. What a relief! But then it comes back on again. Each time we ignore it the risk to damaging our car increases. Its gonna putt out at some point in the future. But why wait until then? Perhaps we’re in denial and hope that the inevitable won’t happen when we are so busy getting on with other urgent things that have to be done. Or conversely doing nothing because we’ve been stunned into freeze mode with just too much to do.
The reality is that we’re talking about our bodies, our minds and our business. Your body and your mind are the best instrument and asset you have for making a success of you and your business. It all starts from you. If you know your instrument well, look after it and keep it finely tuned then it will play beautifully and people will want to hear you play it. People will be attracted to you. Good bands don’t think about avoiding how bad they’re going to sound they imagine how good they will sound and aspire to that.
So how about we apply this to ourselves? Lets start thinking about what we can do to help us feel really good every single waking minute. The more positive, focused, passionate and energetic you are the more likely you will feel in tune with yourself and your environment and actualise success in your business.
In this place you are at your best. This is the place that inspires people to buy from you. So how do you get you and your business there? Well awareness that there is this place is the beginning. So spend some time imagining what life might be like for you in this place.
They say that the actualizing of you desires and dreams happen twice, second in real life and first in your imagination/minds eye. So spend sometime wondering over the following questions:
How can i grow my positive energy?
What am I really passionate about that I can do today, and be fully present with?
What positive attitude do I choose to take on tomorrow?
What will I wake up saying to myself in the mirror tomorrow that will stay with me through the day?
Remember what it feels like when your on holiday, the tranquility, calmness and natural happiness? Really remember what you were feeling, seeing and smelling at the time.
You hold that memory and feeling inside you every day whether you choose to access it or not. Now take that feeling and apply it to your business environment. What do you notice is different in the way you handle your day to day problem-issues? What do you notice with your symptoms you circled above? How have they changed?
What will you do differently going forward as a result of this blog?
Live life with passion,
Jan